Gender Identity (1) + Sexual Orientation (1) = 2, ok?

 Orientation Sexuelle ≠ Identité Sexuée,

 ou le super hero a l'intérieur qui veut crier quand on balance des conneries - 

je traduis cet article en Français pour 2 plaquettes de chocolat noir au sel carrefour (et il y un cadeau musical different pour ceux qui auront lu l'article jusqu'au bout)

Yesterday, I inadventently discovered an equal rights fighter hidden inside me.

Out of a tiny little remark of nothing. It wasn't the place to start a debate so I shut up though my face said it all, probably.

It happened at the small, totally laid back Japanese lesson I attend once a week. I won't even tell you about the different degrees of politeness between a man asking a question to a woman and a woman asking a question to a man (it's complicated AND I'm lazy AND the woman has to totally 'humbled' herself while addressing a man, even a younger man after a certain age, if I understood well, which made me cry inside (and made me realise that I was way more sensitive to this issue than I thought I was).

We started digressing about personal pronouns ( I ) in Japanese, and how they are many many different 'I' available for men, that women just cannot use. It's just the way Japanese language is. Woman can say watashi, or atashi (more girly version), that's it. Man can say many different 'I' depending on who they address and what image of themselves they want to project.

This guy I met once while walking around in Tokyo made a nice video about it here, go check him out (but come back after!). (Oh my god, as I checked this link I realised he is doing the same mistake I am about to tell you about...!!! I hadn't even realised because he seemed just such a sensible person... Petaaaaaaaaaa-kun! Nani wo suru yo!!! Ok moral of the story: nice people make mistakes too, it's ok).

SO back to my lesson: we're talking about the myriad of pronouns usable by men, when suddenly the man on my right, attending for the first time, said something along the lines of:
-''The problem is that many foreign males are taught Japanese by women and end up sounding completely gay.'' (Those were not his exact words, they are the idea that was expressed and that I reformulate here with my own broken english - man: six months in Japan does affects one's English).

That's when the hidden super hero tried to burst out of my chest with its yellow and blue cape and shout:

  DUUUUUDE! 

YOU ARE MISTAKING GENDER IDENTITY AND  SEXUAL ORIENTATION! 

And YES, it's a problem!

How many gay males do you know? How many of them are feminine? Being a guy who is feminine, in whatever way, does not mean he is homosexual! How many lesbians do you know? Do they all look like they ride a motorbike and like to punch stuff? Duhhhhh? Generalisation has never helped any oppressed population. If you said all jewish people have massive noses and a lot of money you'd have people telling you you have issues, at the best. If you took a massive Jamaican accent and pretend to speak like a black person, you'd simply be labelled racist. How many black people do you know speak with a Jamaican accent? And no! There's nothing flipping wrong with a Jamaican accent! Just not everybody fits into the little category you nicely created in your head to put them in!!!
Man look at me, I totally look like a boy. fact of the day: I am heterosexual. WOW hooooo nooooo! It doesn't fiiit!!! Ahhhh!!!

I guess my intention was not to put a bachelor's hat and explain by A+B with a superior look that some people need to be educated. I'm the last person to think I should educate anybody, about anything.
I just think the LGBT community has enough on their plates, and with many friends and family member belonging to that community, I just thought I'd explain something I think I got more or less right.

Now you've been brave enough to read all this, here's a musical reward.

It's on the house, you're welcome.